Here are two examples: 1.
Here are two examples:
1. You are rushing all day in your home office to meet an impossible deadline. Your daughter bounces in after school and gives you a big hug as you furiously type on your computer. You snap, ?Not now! Can?t you see I?m busy??
2. You have just finished taking an important exam. You have studied for weeks and the result is very important to your career. You fantasize all the way home about dinner at your favorite Italian restaurant. When you get home, your husband has prepared a steak dinner for you. You yell, ?Why don?t you ask me before you just assume you know what I want??
This explains why people often respond with anger when they experience the following kinds of stress:
? Anxiety
? Being in a hurry
? Being overstimulated
? Being overworked
? Depression
? Fatigue
? Fear
? Feeling abandoned or attacked
? Feeling forced to do something you don?t want to do
? Feeling out of control
? Guilt, shame, or hurt
? Loss
? Physical pain
What to Do Instead of Getting Angry
Here are some constructive things can you do to reduce stress?instead of becoming angry:
? Beat a pillow with a tennis racket.
? Cry.
? Do relaxation exercises.
? Get physical exercise.
? Listen to your favorite music.
? Make a joke.
? Play games.
? Say it out loud.
? State your needs assertively.
? Take a nap.
? Tell a friend about it.
? Work.
? Write about it.
Garrett Coan is a professional therapist,coach and psychotherapist.
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